Understanding the Reasons Behind Your Boyfriend’s Interest in Giving Oral Pleasure

Did you know that as many as 4 in 5 couples practice oral sex?

Three days ago I had the good fortune of sitting next to a group of excited ladies.

Soon, oral pleasure became the major topic of their somewhat loud conversation and each of the ladies had loads of stories to tell.

I can’t share all that I heard them talk about.

But I can tell you about a trend that I noticed, one that inspired this article that you are about to read.

It appears more guys are interested in giving their partners oral pleasure!

And the girls are loving it. They do not understand why but they sure are not complaining about it.

Do you have a boyfriend that just loves giving you oral pleasure?

Do you find it weird or worrisome?

Relax.

The rest of the article will help you understand why he loves giving oral pleasure so much!

Keep reading! 

 Understanding the Act

Lily, one of the ladies that I just mentioned described oral pleasure as a “…mind-blowing experience. My eyes roll into the back of my head, and BOOM, I get an earth-shattering climax”.

Most women dream of such an experience.

But do you understand how oral pleasure works?

For the sake of the greenhorns, let’s start by describing what oral pleasure is.

Oral pleasure with your boyfriend involves him stimulating your intimate lady parts. Some folks think that it’s limited to your vulva and/or vagina. No, it includes the insides of your thigh, buttocks, and just about everything covered by your bum shorts.

For the most part, oral is a kind of no-holds-barred kind of activity (in a good way). So, just anything goes. Whether it is kissing, sucking, licking, flicking, nibbling, or more.

Anything goes.

As long as there is communication and consent (more on that later).

The idea is to stimulate your extremely sensitive clitoris, the outer lips, and the surrounding areas until you climax.

When it comes to oral pleasure, it’s best to experiment with multiple positions, rhythms, pressures, and motions. I found some great positions that you might want to try the next time your boyfriend wants to eat you out:

• Classic Missionary
• Doggie Style
• The Happy Baby
• Queening
• The Kivin Method

Also Read: My Man wants to Drink my Pee

Communication and Consent

 Oral pleasure is an otherworldly feeling that I can’t put in words.

But there is a caveat.

There has to be mutual consent and open communication.

Let them know what feels good and what doesn’t. Your preferences are different from the next person, so what worked for his last partner may not work for you.

It is also important to discuss your boundaries and how far you are willing to go. It’s your body so you are entitled to have certain areas that you do not want to be touched or certain techniques that you do not enjoy.

Never take mutual consent for granted.

You have the right to withdraw your consent when you feel that your boundaries are not being respected. If he expresses discomfort or changes his mind, respect his decision too.

 By all means, use protection like dental dams and condoms to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). The form of protection that you use is entirely up to the two of you.

 Reasons and Motivations

 According to the Women’s Health Initiative, as much as 52 % of men give oral sex to their partners. When you also consider the fact that some female Americans receive oral sex 4.85 times per month then you have a significant number of boyfriends giving oral pleasure regularly.

So why do they do it?

Let’s dive in

Emotional Connection

Few things are as intimate as giving oral pleasure. Some men give their partners oral pleasure because having a woman open herself up to them like that, makes them feel close emotionally.

To these men giving you oral pleasure helps them establish a strong emotional connection. There is a study that showed that men who gave their partners oral pleasure felt good about themselves when they made their partners feel good.

Desire to Please

Some dudes simply get turned on by pleasing their partner. One of my guys, Dave said “It makes me feel like I am the best lover out there. Being able to make my girl orgasm with my mouth brings me so much pleasure. It’s a vibe that I can’t just describe to you.”

Here’s what another dude, Tony, had to say. “Nothing beats the feeling that I get when my girl and I both have an organism, just from going down on her”.

For most guys, having their girl orgasm multiple times makes them feel like sex gods. Sadly, not many dudes are built like Lexington Steele. So, giving you oral pleasure offers them a means to make up for whatever “deficiencies” they might have. The end game is to get you to climax multiple times and since going down on you helps out, why not?

Just so you know,51.8% of women had an orgasm the last time they received oral sex.

Personal Preference

Other guys love giving oral pleasure for a myriad of reasons that border on preference. Here’s what Jamal had to say “I just like the way that my girl tastes”.

For Mike, it was a power trip “Watching my girl go crazy while giving her head is the greatest feeling in the world. I get more off of that vibe than maybe an organism.”

There are several other weird, kinky reasons why guys love giving their girls head. Some of the reasons some guys shared are just too raunchy to share here.

Addressing Misconceptions

Oral pleasure can be a magical experience. But like with most things, it comes with myths and stereotypes.

Myths and Stereotypes:

Here’s the part where we try to dispel some common misconceptions and stereotypes associated with oral sex.

“You can’t get an STI”

Lies. You can get an STI from oral sex. So practice safe sex.

“It’s not proper sex” 

It depends on who is speaking. Some folks find it more stimulating and fulfilling than penetrative sex. 

“It’s unhygienic”

Don’t let a myth prevent you from magical pleasure. Take regular showers and maintain basic hygiene and you are good to go.

“It’s shameful”

Only about 3.5% of Americans believe that oral sex is a shameful activity. So what do you think the rest are up to?

Mutual Respect

Mutual respect is a key ingredient for healthy, fulfilling relationships. And that’s because it generates the

security, trust, accountability, understanding, and open communication that relationships need to thrive.

Mutual respect makes it easy to negotiate common ground when dealing with your personal preferences.

You and your boyfriend also stand a better chance of developing your personalities and growing once you make mutual respect a watchword.

Conclusion

There are multiple reasons why guys are interested in giving oral pleasure. For some, it is a thing of pride while for others, it is a means of creating strong emotional bonds. Yet for others, it is all about pleasing their partners.

Whatever the reason, seeking oral pleasure can be great.

You just need open, honest conversations with your partner about what they like and how far they are willing to go. It is also crucial that you have mutual respect for your desires and boundaries.

That way, you will be creating the foundation for a fulfilling relationship.